“After birth there is a sacred window of time. A time for complete rejuvenation of a woman’s physical, mental and spiritual health. A time for deep, extended bonding with her newborn. The first 42 days after birth set the stage for her next 42 years”.
– Ysha Oakes
This quote envelopes this importance of the post partum period. Did you know the peak time of diagnosis of postpartum depression is when the oldest child is 4 years old? Health decline can have a way of building up over time.
There is no sure-fire way to avoid postpartum depression, but research indicates there is a strong link in positive health outcomes when new mothers are cared for in the first 42 days after birth.
So here is my offer to you…
Give yourself permission.
Permission to embrace the newborn phase.
To thrive, not just survive.
To slow down; give yourself the time to fall in love with your baby and learn to understand cues and subtleties of your newborn.
To focus on breastfeeding and bonding; it’s a full time job.
Permission to make mistakes, to fail sometimes. That’s how we learn, and how we often develop ‘mother instinct’.
Permission to ask. Forget your hang ups or self limiting beliefs.
Permission to accept help. If only for these precious first weeks. No cooking, cleaning, dishes, ironing, hosting. Embrace the oxytocin fuelled bliss potential that this phase present. Give yourself permission to set your parenting journey from a foundation of strength, support, connection and love.
Doula vs Post Partum Doula
A ‘Doula’ in the maternal care context was coined by the famous medical anthropologist Dana Raphael to mean “non-medical caregiving”. A postpartum doula does the work ‘after birth’. A doula provides informational, practical and emotional support to new parents.
Why a Post Partum Doula?
As a Post Partum doula, I will help guide you through this part of your parenthood journey Mother instinct knows best; but hearing her voice and trusting her insights can take time.
I’ll be walking this path alongside you. I won’t save you; you can do that yourself. But sometimes we just need a ledge to steady ourselves – as your Post Partum Doula I can be that support.
Postpartum Doula Options
Build your own package to bring the greatest sense of peace and joy to your post partum period:
- 2-hour pre-natal meet up to prepare for your peaceful newborn phase – establishing a plan to reduce stress and feelings of self-doubt, support in building your village including putting together a meal train for the early weeks, creating support mechanisms between you and your partner.
- Emotional support and guidance;
- Gentle direction on embracing baby brain, it’s actually there to help!
- Support to tune in to what brings you peace and joy as a Mother, and as a family;
- Help in boosting your love hormones to support you to thrive, not just survive;
- Basic baby care and breastfeeding support;
- Caring for your newborn to enable you to rest/sleep/shower/or whatever brings you the most peace and joy at that time!
- Guidance for you to make space to develop your parenting style;
- Friendly, non-judgemental support to create the space for you to vent, cry, laugh or whatever it is you need to move back into emotional balance;
- Flexibility around time of visits to include evenings;
- Belly binding;
- Demonstrating self-massage and baby massage;
- Help with caring for other children;
- Light house duties.